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August 20, 2010

Hi, I'm Tammy (Part III)

Singing has been a passion of mine, ever since I launched my unofficial career as a preschooler, belting out “Let the Sunshine In” during church. I remember my first solo as a first grader: playing a little lamb for our school’s Christmas concert; being alone on stage underneath the spotlight; feeling like a dork wearing white long johns with glued-on cotton balls, but feeling like a star, nonetheless.

As a high school freshman, I qualified for State Vocals but got sick the week before (most likely a case of nerves). I vowed I would qualify all 4 years for State, but the next year I had a memory lapse: I repeated a verse by mistake and even though no one except the judge knew of my mistake, she gave me a II rating. I was disappointed in my performance, while struggling to define my talent despite this negative feedback. What I learned was that one rating didn’t make me a bad singer. Similarly, I also learned that making mistakes, whether with performances, relationships or at work, also didn’t make me a bad person or employee. What is important is to learn from the mistake, keep trying and move forward.

My junior year, I aced State with a I rating and didn’t even compete my senior year. I didn’t need a judge telling me I was good – discovering my own self-worth was far more rewarding than anyone else’s ranking.

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August 19, 2010


I’ve been challenged – no, not to a duel, but by a dual.

My supervisor, Steve Riat, (Steve’s Marketing Blog) questioned whether I could become a more effective connector professionally; and Scott Ginsberg (Scott’s Blog) requested personal theories for increasing the probability of success for a future writing project. Intrigued, I explored the relationship between these two thoughts and began molding my experiences into a useful blog for others. Thus, I present to you a new philosophy I dub “Connectorable.”

Before I delve any further, I must provide a brief history. I love sharing how I received a B.A. in B.S. No joke! I truly I LOVE to meet people and get to know them better. This passion led me to major in Communication for both a bachelor and master’s degree. From my days selling newspaper advertising to my years as a customer service supervisor, all my careers have had a central theme: building and enhancing customer relationships. Connecting at a deeper, more meaningful level has always given me a natural high: I am highly energized after positively interacting with others and believe I trigger a similar spark in others.

When I first began working for Steve, he quickly identified me as a “people person.” Years ago, he challenged me to build and strengthen my business relationships. Rather than simply collecting business cards, he urged me to find ways to use my natural talent to HELP people connect. This has become such an important skill set that Steve added “identify two connections per month” to my Annual Review as a measureable goal. So when I heard about Scott’s new book “-able,” I became even more intrigued: how does one make him/herself more able? (See the book cover’s image to the side.) Furthermore, do I possess tips and tricks that can help others be more successful at connecting others?

I personally define connectorable as such (and don’t go looking in your trusty ole Webster – this word isn’t in there…yet):

   con-nec-tor-a-ble [kuh-nek-ter-a-bull]
   adjective: the ability to connect people in professional situations that are impactful and positive. People lacking the know-how or confidence to effectively network with others seek out those who are connectorable.


Here’s how I’ve learned to be more connectorable and why this ability continues to change lives beyond my own:

-People look to me as a resource for employment possibilities or as a recruiter for new employees. I’ve become a mini-workforce-center/head hunter all based on this word-of-mouth reputation.

-Too many times to count, I’ve introduced people based on the need to solve a problem. Person A has a specific issue that I know Person B can fix: I connect the two together and voilà! Problem solved!

-Being connectorable requires patience, time and wisdom. You must have patience to nurture quality relationships; time to allow others to develop their own natural talents; and wisdom to know who and when to connect.

-There is a certain level of risk to being connectorable. For instance, the connector risks not being able to provide a quality connection, thus impacting his or her reputation. However, connectees reduce their own risk when working with one who is connectorable. The reason is this: a connector can gauge a situation for emotional level, success probability or people’s interest before revealing anyone’s names.

-By focusing my intentions to help others, I’ve increased my own visibility and personal brand, strengthened existing friendships, enhanced my own skill set, and widened my networking circle.

-My own success is only achievable by first helping others. There is no value in being connectorable if the end result doesn’t find answers or unite people effectively and positively.

-Connecting others for a greater purpose feels good - plain and simple.

So many people can be connectorable, but they either choose not to get involved or they simply don’t recognize this as the gift it can be for themselves and for others. My challenge now is to continue improving upon this skill while sharing with others how they, too, can become connectorable.
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August 18, 2010

School Daze

I completed my syllabus for my Fall Marketing Principles class - completed the first draft, that is. More than likely, I will revise this document at least 5 - 10 more times before Tuesday's class time, not to mention I will have an ongoing syllabus I work from as I find new direction or inspiration mid-way through the semester.

If I had any idea teachers did more homework than I was doing as their student, I would have expressed far more appreciation to their efforts! With that said, here's wishing all who are returning to school as a student, teacher or parent of student a GREAT school year!!!

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August 16, 2010

Hi, I'm Tammy (Part II)

Another blog on impactful experiences:

While editor of the collegiate newspaper, I had a discussion with a section’s editor that ended very badly. I was reprimanding him for actions he took on behalf of the newspaper that were both potentially illegal and dangerous. Our yelling match ended with him slamming the door as he shouted over his shoulder, “I quit!”

A week or so later, this schoolmate came back apologizing, wanting his position back. I told him no, for these reasons: his actions prompting our visit were unprofessional and irresponsible; his treatment toward me was unreasonable and extremely disrespectful, and he had a history of explosive and unpredictable behavior. I shared that, while I realized this was only a temporary job to help pay for college and bills, he had to learn how to work effectively, fairly, calmly and respectfully. Someday, he would have more at stake - a career, a wife, a family, a reputation - and he needed to learn now to take responsibility for his actions and words.

Even after all my work experience and years as a supervisor, telling him no was one of the hardest things I have ever done professionally. I lost a friend that day, and I’ve always wondered if that sacrifice was worth it. I hope so.

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