Tammy's View

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February 7, 2018

Please pass the brakes

Early in my career, I attended a management seminar that helped me control my own emotional responses during stressful situations. One strategy I have implemented often is to monitor the tone of my voice so that I don't come across as too intense or sharp. In order to do this, our instructor told us to imagine the tone we use when asking someone to "please pass the butter." This advice registered with me, because this tone was firm, clear and professional without adding unnecessary, conflictual or emotional undertones.

I never would have dreamed this advice would come in handy with my license-in-hand, ready-to-drive-at-every-possible-moment son. Tonight, while driving through the patchy snow-packed city roads, I heard myself say calmly and quite blandly, "Honey, if you don't start to break soon, you will crash into the car in front of us."

Thanks to management training, I may actually survive my teenage son's learning permit stage. 

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February 4, 2018

Gordon's Big Adventure

Yesterday, Gordon, the smallest of our two dogs, escaped from our backyard. Twice.

Picture if you will a mutt that looks like Disney's The Tramp crossed with the Wizard of Oz's Toto and you have our seven-pound, rust-colored, highly-spirited Gordon.

Because Gordon is smaller than most rabbits, he is like the Houdini of dogs, and his artistry at escaping numerous challenges is quite admirable. We still have no idea where he escaped from our yard yesterday; this would explain the hodgepodge of rocks, bricks and chicken wire scattered all around our fence.

When I think of this tiny, scrappy and fearless dog enjoying his times of freedom yesterday, I cannot help but smile. While many details will never be known (I mean, did he get to chase a rabbit or not?), I do know he got to meet a very nice lady who kindly brought him home after the first escape. I'm sure it was a thrill for him to drive around in the police car, although my guess is the fun was hampered when he realized the joy-ride ended at the vet's office. 

Either way, the day ended with Gordon happily snuggled into his mommy's lap, pooped after a day filled with such adventure. And his mommy was happy to have him home.

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January 3, 2018

Learning from failure

Yesterday, my son took his driver's test for his instructor's permit. And he failed the test. By one point.

I walked into the License Office with a nervous, anxious boy and walked out with one simply devastated. Failing at anything can have that impact.

Even as adults in the professional world, we intellectually know that failure will happen. When it does, we know we will learn from it and have the potential to grow to be stronger, smarter, faster, better. So, why then do we fear failing as much as we do?

I'm sure many of you are like me this New Year, planning resolutions we will probably fail before the month ends. As I mature (sounds kinder and less gray than age), I have come to realize the only true failure is giving up or not trying at all. All those other times we label as failure really are just life's learning lessons.

So, today my son gave it another try. I'm happy to report that there is a new driver in our household! 

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December 29, 2017

Learning at all ages

Yesterday, my son turned 14. In the state of Kansas, he can sit for his driver's exam and hopefully earn his learner's permit. After encouraging (ok, more like nagging) him for a month to study for this test, he finally exploded and told me to stop pressuring him.  

Whoa, Nelly! After 30-plus years of driving myself, I forgot how nervous I was to begin driving. I remember watching my twin brother take the test immediately after we became of age, but I chose to wait until after Driver's Ed that following fall before I even made the attempt. 

What I  take for granted in my adult life are new and scary experiences for my son. It's good to be reminded that we aren't experiencing life at the same speed. Now that I begin 2018 with a new team at work (whew-75% turnover in one year can be tough!), I will need to remember patience, support, encouragement and understanding are important skills to have as a parent and as a leader.

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December 13, 2017

My early Christmas Gift

My mind is filled with phrases and words and if I could ever weave them together, I might be able to write my novel someday. Jumbled amid my mental grocery lists and work to-do's are some amazing story lines, plot twists, character breakdowns, clever descriptions and even a play script idea! So what have I done with all of this creative energy? 

Not a darn thing.

For over a year, I have paid for this blog site but haven't written one word. How embarrassing not to mention a waste ofan artistic outlet. So, after spending time updating my picture (yes, I've changed in the 10 years since the last photo) as well as new design template, and I'm ready to get back to the blogging.

If only I can turn those ideas into some lucrative money-making schemes, and it will be a Happy New Year indeed! 

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